Let me introduce myself...

I came into this world on SuperBowl day of 1989 during the halftime game and I've been making big bangs ever since. Born in the world that is known as New Orleans, I've become a deadly combination of a young black woman: street smart, book smart and common sense.

I am the exception of the norm in this city: I don't follow the trends. I love our local music (bounce) but it isn't my life. My fashion sense reflects who I am as a person and it's ever-changing because I'm continuing to grow. I've got goals that extend beyond graduating high school (accomplished) and making babies with some nigga that won't even put a ring on it! My dream and determination is gonna take me beyond this city and onto bigger and better thangs.


I'm a contradiction to myself as evidenced by my zodiac sign:Aquarius. I'm loyal to a few but friends with many, I can be patient but am the most  impatient person that I know, $$ doesn't attract me, uniqueness does and I'm always getting interested in something different every day. Stubborn as a mule with a need for my personal space and freedom even when in a relationship. Complicated aren't I?


Raised by my older cousins, aunts and uncles who know every part of this game, I'm not your average female that's gonna believe every lie that may come my way. I'm looking for a grown man, not a little boy playing games. I need someone by my side that's going places in his life that don't involve jail. I love to be loved and to give my love and I'm looking for the type of man that's worthy to stand by my side.


I don't hang with too many females because they're known to bring the drama and that's just not needed in my life. I got 3 real female friends and the only reason I rock with em is cause they mental state is like mine: we all got a man's mentality. I'd rather kick it with my dudes any day of the week, which explains why I was given the label of "fast" in high school...ya see what I mean by bringing the drama towards me?


Lady Gaga, Paramore, Verbz, Nicki Minaj and Lil Wayne are my ♥'s without their music I couldn't live. Colors and African prints are my current fashion phase and I always gotta have em lol. Dancing & writing are my release from this crazy ass world and singing?...well that's a hobby that ya girl does very well.


This is just an insight into the person that sites at this computer and writes these posts that you read. Just wanted to give you a glimpse into myself but now, you can continue to get to know...

Wal-Mart Funeral Home?

I'm starting to think that the closer we get to Halloween this year: the more crazy ish I'm gonna hear lol I really do. This info I just got on facebook has given me the perfect ending to an already crazy day....soo everyone's lovely Wal Mart has decided that they want to sell caskets now. Yep, you heard me right caskets: as in funeral caskets.

I am truly done....here's the link for those who may still not believe:: our wonderful wal mart *smdh*.

Misery's Business...time to tell it like it is

I guess today is just the day for me to be hit with shockers huh? Not too long after I got the news from my girl Andra, I got a text from my friend Tee telling me that an old "friend" of ours had gotten married....think I'd be happy about that right? yeah well I'm not.


Let me 1st explain about me and Leigh's friendship. We met in the 7th grade and clicked instantly. Unfortunately we fell out of touch when she switched to another school but got close again when I transfered to that same school my 10th grade year.  That was my girl right there, we kicked it, laughed, talked, cried, fell in and out of love together. S**t we couldn't have been closer than sisters....then Katrina hit and she moved to Texas. Now I've never been one to judge my friends on what they do but I'ma just be real here since this is MY place to say what I want: Leigh was a hoe. Ain't no way to sugar-coat it, that's straight raw realness.

"Second chances they don't ever matter, people never change.
Once a whore you're nothing more, I'm sorry, that'll never change."

-------Misery Business, Paramore

Now my junior year I started dating a boy named Rory and skipping over the boring parts: we began to fall out and he and Leigh began to get even closer and closer. At first I didn't really notice anything but after awhile it began to become obvious that they're "friendship" was becoming more & just like I expected: after we broke up they quickly began dating, even though it was long distance.


My whole issue with that situation is: there were 7 girls in our group in high school and we all agreed that dating each other's ex's was against the rules and something that we would NEVER do to each other and for her to go back and do THAT to me after we had been so close for so long hurt me on a level that I can't begin to imagine.


Honestly, I feel bad for Rory because it's knowledge to all of us that she's cheated on him through their entire relationship, their engagement and their new-found marriage...now I say though: f**k it cause it's obvious that she's happy settling for someone else's sloppy seconds and he's happy being in a relationship with his eyes closed.


That isn't my business because I've removed myself from both of their lives. I'll leave you all with this quote that says it all: "I can handle my enemies Lord, it's my friends that I need your help with."

Gratz go to my girl

This is just gonna be a quick post:

OMG! I just got the most awesome news from someone that I was very cool with in high school. My girl Andra just called to tell me and invite me to her wedding...that's next month! We're the same age and I guess...it's really hitting me that after high school....anything is possible for my old classmates and I.


Dang....I get to see people next month that I haven't seen since high school or freshman year of college. Just wanna send love, happiness and blessings to Andra and her fiance. I'm sooo happy for you girl!

Black and Gold Fever

Who Dat?! Who Dat?! Who Dat said they gon beat them Saints?!
Nobody so far! Yes (6-0) and showing no signs of slowing down.

I have to say that I've never seen my city so alive & vibrant...the last time the energy was like this was the Saints first season back in the city after hurricane Katrina...now THAT was electric but this? THIS is a different energy. We actually have a well put together team this year and our QB #9 mr. Brees?!...the boy is on F-I-R-E and the SuperBowl is most def a possibility this year. I am by no means a football fan and have never been a Saints fan but this black and gold fever has reached everyone and when they play, the unbelievable happens: the city comes to a complete stop.

In a time when we don't have many positive things to hold onto and rally around, the Saints and what they're doing on that field every week is like a beacon of light for us. So with saying all that I'm going to end this with two words that have become New Orleans' new motto:

GEAUX SAINTS!!!!!!!

Chrianna....The Saga

*sigh* it seems our boy Chris Breezy just can't let go of Ri-Ri. He recently took to twitter (@MechanicalDummy is his twit page) and linked a video of him and Ri-Ri during happier times...it's obvious to all of us that these two still have feelings for each other and I truly believe that no matter what anyone tells them or how we feel: they WILL end up back together.

I stated this when the "incident" happened and I will repeat it now: I will NEVER condone a man doing to a woman what was done to Rihanna but none of us know exactly what happened that night and have no clue what all took place in that car to make the situation escalate to that level. I do feel that it's best that they take time apart from each other to get their lives together and heal because dosmetic abuse is never easy but doing it in the public eye...I cannot begin to imagine how much worse that made it.

Chris needs to deal with his issues because growing up in a household of domestic abuse is a horrible thing. His counseling classes that he is hopefully attending needs to be his first priority along with his music. I've heard some people say that Rihanna needs to speak out about what happened to her. To those people I say: no she does not. Everyone deals with things in their own way and speaking out may not be the right course for her right now. Stop judging her for not following the path that YOU believe is right and let her live her life.

I'll close this with saying that no matter what these two decide: get back together, remain friends or go their seperate ways, they need to make that choice for themselves and in their best interests. Because no matter how much you love someone, we all deserve to be in a healthy, happy relationship with no fear of having our partner put their hands on us in anger.

Dating men with Children

As I've grown over the years, my mentality has changed on so many subjects and for that I am grateful. Being a teenager, I felt that I would never become involved with a man who already had children because of the "baby mama drama" that was sure to come along with it.

I've never allowed myself to become romantically involved with a man who had children and now that I look back, I think that I may have missed out on a good opportunity. Now that I've met someone that really has my interest and that I want to take our relationship further with, I am hit with the possibility that he may soon be a father. Well...what I always said would never come to past has finally arrived.

BlogSwap Day!

This was my 1st ever blog swap and I was soo stoked for it! I ended up with the wonderful partner of Angela. I guess you can say I got lucky because she's a complete sweetheart too! Check out my post over at Craving the Cupcakes and the rest of her blog. Guarantee you'll love it!! Here's her contribution to our swap so enjoy!

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I feel like I’m a 35 year old mother trapped in a 23 year old Nanny’s body.




-I’d rather have my friends over for a dinner party on a Friday night than go out to a bar.


-I have an obsession with Kitchen Aid stand mixers. My boyfriend recently bought me one, and I named her Lola.


-My only interaction with adults at work are when I’m picking up the youngest boy from Kindergarden. We talk about sales on granola bars at Walmart and sleeping habits of the kids.


-I’m obsessed with baking. Butter is like gold in my apartment. No sooner do we buy it than I am in the kitchen baking something with it.


-I’ve recently taken up cross stitching.


-I’m perfectly content staying home on a Saturday night with my boyfriend doing absolutely nothing.


-I love family dinners. I’m looking forward to Christmas because I can’t wait to have everyone together for a big meal.


-I need a cup of coffee first thing in the morning to help me wake up.


-I can cook lunch with a baby on my hip.


-I’ve changed more diapers than most childless people that I know.


-I carry bandaids in my wallet, hand sanitizer and a Tide to Go pen in my purse.


-My “breaks” at work consist of my sitting in another room for all of two minutes before one of the kids come screaming my name.


-My favorite blogs are the decorating and design blogs.


I’ve recently come to realize that it’s ok to embrace my mother hen qualities. My friends love it when I show up with baked goods. Those bandaids in my wallet, hand sanitizer and Tide to Go pen in my purse have come in handy more often than you realize, and not just while I’m at work. I know a ton about raising kids, and I don’t even have any of my own yet. When I finally complete my cross stitching project, I’ll actually have something I am proud to display and tell people that I made on my own. More people are obsessed with coffee than you realize. I know when the best time to buy granola bars are. My friends and family love me for my quirky qualities, and I hope that over time you guys can too. I’ve made up for the fact that I feel like I’m a 35 year old mother by going to a sex toy party last night. Just don’t tell my own mother that. She thought I was going to a birthday party.

Why?! Of the Day

I....I can't even begin to....OMG!!!

Is this reggin (nigger backwards) serious?!! Not only is all those tats trifling as hell but the yellow/orange hat just screams GAY?!?!

WHY did they let him post this, let alone take this damn picture?!
WHY is his fat sagging on the side?!

I'm done...I just can't even...all I can say is: I bet not EVER see somebody I know with a picture like this or I'm cutting all ties I swear!!

Dear Santa....

All I want for Christmas is.....

Some mind blowing good S-E-X!!!

I know this letter is early but it would mean sooo much if I could get this present early this year. I mean it's not too much to ask for is it? I've been a good girl and I think that I deserve this!! I have a very healthy sex drive and being honest with myself: I love everything about sex. The foreplay, the act of sex itself and the after affects of it too so dear Santa can you make this wish come true?

I don't want that much in regards to the act itself. All I want is someone that I know who can work with what they've got. Tongue game on point and is blessed with the magic stick, 8 inches or longer is what I prefer but I'll take 6 or 7...nothing below lol. I wanna be able to get down and do all that I love to do behind closed doors and that won't be possible with a prude so Santa can you make this wish come true?

I know I say this every year and I promise that'll change but Santa...if you send me good sex for Christmas this year I won't ever ask for anything again.

Love Always Your Good Girl,

MsQuitey

Deal Breakers

Every once and a while I hear a certain song that reminds me of an ex and it brings up all of the old memories of our time together and of course...of the break-up. When I'm in a relationship, I give it everything that I have & if it doesn't work out...it hurts so reminiscing is never enjoyable.


"Porcelain Doll" is that newest song for me. I love everything she says in the song but I'll be damned if it does not preach about what I just went through. I need to sit my ex down and let him listen to this whenever I get the chance so he can fully grasp why I had to get out of that unhealthy situation.


I'm a very independent person but I love to be taken care of...not smothered because there is a HUGE difference. I was blessed with the capability to comprehend, I have a brain and I love to use it so don't treat me as if I'm a child that doesn't know any better because it belittles me. It's perfectly fine to be happy and proud that you have a good person by your side but there is a certain point when you can make someone feel as if they are nothing but an object for you to show off and boast about.


What are some deal breakers for you guys in relationships? Are there just certain things/habits that will make it hard for you to stay no matter what?

Congrats Dr. Francis

Dr. Norman Francis, who has been the president of Xavier University of Louisiana for the past 41 years has been listed as one of America's Best Leaders this year. As a former student of XULA, I can honestly say that Dr. Francis does a lot for the students, school and community of New Orleans that is possible. For him to given this title is truly an honor.


Read the entire article here on Nola.com

Fashionista on a Budget

It's winter time and of course we all should have at least 1 leather jacket in our closets. This is a hawt black one from my fav website: amiclubwear. Only $25.99! Enjoy!!

Kicking My Habit

I haven't loved anyone the way that I did him...not even to this day. I've heard people say that at the age of 15, you can't really know what love is but to those people I say: yes you can.


I feel in love with a 16 year old boy with pretty brown eyes, a heart-stopping smile, smart, sweet, goofy and caring. We clicked as friends and it was natural for it to progress to the next level. We cried together, mourned together, laughed together, shared dreams with each other and grew together...to this day when I can depend on no one else, "he" always is there.

I'ma Naughty Little.....

Schoolgirl!!

Soo I've finally decided on my costume and I L-O-V-E it totally and fully! lol I cannot WAIT until next weekend so that I can take all the pics and post a few. Would love to know what you guys are planning on going as.

Giving Me A Rush

All my friends know that I'm a sucker for a gorgeous black man. I mean that melt in your mouth and not in your hand, smooth brown-skinned  brother and if they have a pretty smile too...I get damn near weak in the knees!


The way we met was purely accidental...we share a mutual friend. The only reason that we met is because my best friend's mama died and you came with our boy to check on her. I saw you that day and automtically was attracted to you. Beautiful brown skin, pretty brown eyes, the swag was on point, that fashion taste was looking good and had the nerve to have a pretty smile. I decided in my mind right then that I had to ask my boy bout you and when I did, I found out you had been asking him about me too...well only thing after that for us to do was of course exchange #'s.

Interracial Couple Denied

Being from Louisiana, I hear a lot of things that make me ashamed to say that I'm from this state but today...hearing about the couple that was told by a Justice of the court in Tangipahoa Parish that he wouldn't marry them because they were an interracial couple shocked me.


Keith Bardwell said that his reasoning for turning them away is because in his experience interracial marriages do not last as long. He also feels that children born of an interracial union are going to have problems being accepted by both the black and white race and that he won't put them through that kind of pain.

Balloon Boy Hoax

So it seems that yesterday everyone was enthralled by the story of "Balloon Boy". I'm just gonna give a quick run-down of the story and then speak my mind...so! Father makes helium ballon, brother says boy got in balloon, balloon flies for a while, military and local cops come out to try and bring the balloon down, balloon finally does come down and surprise no little boy inside, little boy is found in attic at own home, later on during interview little boy says that he stayed hidden because "you said we were doing this for the show."

WTH?!?! I can't really speak on if it was a hoax or not but that SURE is the way it's looking. If so, those people are going to be in alot of trouble with the cops for wasting police time and energy for something that was a prank. I can't really be mad at that baby because he was just doing what his parents told him but damn...*smh*

Home In The Heavens

Today was a beautiful day for my lil cousin's homegoing celebration. I refuse to call it a funeral because even though we're sad and miss her, she's back home in God's embrace where she's loved beyond anything we can imagine.


I've never been more grateful for the togetherness that my family has than today. I feel truly blessed to be surrounded by people who care about me, my well being, happiness and love me for me: flaws and all.


The sun truly shined down on Dem Dem today as she entered the gates of Heaven and was swept into God's loving, caring embrace. The pain is still here but now the healing can begin for all of us. It won't be easy, there'll be tears and sadness from time to time but the knowledge that she's happy & not dealing with the problems of this world is enough to help us through.


RIP little angel and continue to smile down on us with your elecetric smile.

My Spirituality

My spirit...
light as a feather...
my problems and my issues...
come and go like bad weather...
just as predictable
as the coming of the night...
the ups and downs...
yet I still continue to fight...
Y'all can't hold me...
Y'all can't phase me now...
can't perceieve how I don't get caught up...
y'all just sitting there like...wow...
I'm on a whole 'nother planet
where only a chosen few can see...
Do you honestly think that
you can match the shear strength of my spirituality?
Can you stare into my eyes
and tell me what's in MY soul?
Yeah, you can't because I'm not yours
I'm only under God's control
so remember my words
when you are caught under a rock
nothing is ever to hard
nothing is ever to difficult to just be stopped.
So always try and remember MY plea:
Child of God
hold onto your faith and spirituality.

Why?! Of The Day

I got this from You Know You Dead Azz Wrong **check em out if you want a laugh because the pictures and the captions are always killing me**. I just had to get this one though...I wish I WOULD go out with my girls and see this mess in the club with me.

WHY is the one on the left looking like mama/papa bear?!

WHY do the two on the right look like they just got finished fooling around with each other?!


WHY is Trey Gay in the middle?! Didn't he get the drag memo that was sent out?


*smdh* I'm sorry, I'm done...I just can't do it lol.

Annihilation Of Our Men?

Once again my wonderful city of New Orleans has taken the title of being the 'Murder Capital.' This is not a title that I nor anyone in this city should take joy or pride in...in fact we all should feel shamed that we have left the crime in this city reach the heights that it has. It has gotten so bad that the number of people killed in a week down here range between 8 to 12 and they are mostly african american males between the ages of 16 and 27....that's the annihilation of an entire generation right there!!

In 2007 we had 210 killings per people and in 2008, we had 68 killings per 100,000 people in the city. As of July of this year, there were a reported number of 97 murders. 97!! These young men are killing each other for no other reason than that they can. It has gotten to the point where I only pick up the newspaper down here for the living section because looking anything else will surely break your heart. The reasons that come out of their mouths that they feel validates the taking of another life: "he disrespected me", "he was fucking around with my girl" "he not from my hood". This has always been an issue for me: New Orleans is broken into neighborhoods or wards as they're called down here and the fighting that goes on between the different wards...it's crazy, no other word can describe it.I love my city and when things are going good I love everything about my city. I take pride in saying that I'm from New Orleans...the New Orleans that's based on our food, our culture, partying, our history, I take pride in THAT part but this? I shake my head at my brothers acting like animals in cages that do not have the capability of thinking rationally and making something of themselves.I blame it on the parents who have this children before they are ready for them and then leave them to raise themselves without any good role models, I blame the school system in this city that before and after Katrina have been filled with school teachers and adminstrators that gave no second thought to the students but were just concerned about their paycheck and I blame the prejudiced police officers in this city who judge some of these young men and accuse or badger them until they snap. I'm not taking the blame away from the ones that are committing these crimes because the heaviest blame lays on their shoulders. At the end of the day, THEY are responsible about the choices they make, the type of people they associate with, the lifestyle they lead and what they choose to do with their lives. I am saying that the environment in which they are raised can have an effect on them...maybe it's time to change the environment and help this generation before it's completely annihilated.

Let's learn from the murder of Derrion Albert, Ashley "AJ" Jewell and Kevin Miller. Or...I fear that the phrase I hear out of black women's mouths all the time "There's no good black men around" may one day become a reality all of us have to face.

Song of The Day-Sex Therapy

That sexy swooner Robin Thicke is back and he's back giving us exactly what we love from him!

Sex Therapy is his newest single and as a fan of his I have to give Sex Therapy 2 thumbs up.

Enjoy!!

Best Friend or Future Cuddy Buddy?

It's an old age question that's been asked thousands of times by both men and women:

Can we just be friends?

Well guess what? I finally have an answer:
YES WE CAN!!

I've had plenty of platonic male friends over the years that I have never thought of going to that next level with.

I've always been the type of female that finds it easier to click with dudes than I can with other females. Maybe it's from being raised around older male cousins, maybe it's just the type of female that I am but I'll take hanging with a dude at the crib watching a b-ball game than chilling at home with one of my girlfriends gossiping. *shrugs* sorry that's just the way it is.

King of Pop....a thief?!?!

The newest single released by the King of Pop himself, "This Is It", has officially been confirmed as having been co-written by MJ and Paul Anka back in the 80's. I'm a die hard MJ fan and will defend him to anyone but this time.. all evidence points and shows that he stole the song. His estate has named Anka as a 50% partner in the publishing rights to "This Is It"....d**n things are really coming out now aren't they? Regardless of who wrote the song: MJ himself, him and Paul, or Paul himself: I LOVE IT!

To marry or not to marry?

Every girl remembers being little and imaging how their wedding day would be and the type of man that they would marry...I was one of those little girls.

Now that I'm older and not so naive, I've begun to think that marriage is not for me. Marriages in my family haven't been known to last...I don't think we even have a 50% success rate. My grandparents got divorced long before I was born, my mom divorced my dad when I was two and has only recently divorced my step father. I've never met one of my aunts ex-husbands because they were no longer together when I was born. Another aunt married a man she has been living with for twenty + years only 3 years ago and even their marriage is headed towards divorce.

I love my freedom and space and my "me" time....I'm too much of a free spirit for the, I guess I'll call them restrictions, of marriage. The percent of people in the U.S. that are living together and are not married is steadily rising so I no longer feel odd or weird that I feel this way towards marriage.

So what do you guys think? Is marriage for everyone or not? Do you see yourself walking down the aisle one day and saying "I Do"? For those that are already married, how do you make it work?

Fashionista on a budget

I'm all for fashion. Shoes, jewelry, shirts, skirts, boots...anything fashion is a big part of my life BUT I love to shop w/o breaking my wallet. Soo I'm a dedicated online shopper. Don't get me wrong, if I really want it and it screams fashionable to me, sometimes I will dish out the dough to get it. Majority of the time though, I get most things cheap.

It's winter time so time to break out the boots again. These are classic black boots with a 4.75 in. heel.

Available online at

CutesyGirl

Where Did He Go?

I've always been the type to give someone chance after chance after chance when we're in a relationship together. If I'm really putting my everything into it then of course I'm going to do my best to make sure that it works and everyone messes up but when does it become too much? When is it just obvious that the relationship has run it's course?

The #1 rule that I never break is that once you become an ex, you stay an ex. I've never gotten back with any ex-boyfriend after the 1st time because I gave them all the chances they needed the 1st time around and they steadily continued on doing the same thing. I've heard that I"m a good girlfriend, that I did more than they expected from me (whatever that means).

I wouldn't say that I'm picky when it comes to guys that I date because all of my ex's have been different with certain similarities but I do have standards. Am I wrong for not wanting to give a relationship with an ex another shot? I mean I get that people grow up and change but can they really change their values? I believe that once someone shows you the type of person that they are at the heart, they will always be that way: is that wrong? I know I'm not perfect and I'm not looking for someone who is but is it wrong to want a partner who's values matches yours?

Angel Gone Home

Demi Baby

aka

"Lil Faye"

The lost of a family member is always hard but the lost of a child?...it can destroy an entire family. And when the child is gone from this world because of someone else's negliegence? How to cope with that? How can you get over the "what ifs" that run through your mind?

My little cousin was only a year old but now she's an angel and back in God's embrace. In a better place than all of us here on Earth and that gives me comfort but the pain is still there. What kind of adult leaves a baby alone in the tub by herself? What could have been so important that you felt you could leave her alone?...now there are unanswered questions about what truly happened. I don't care about any of that, all I care about is the fact that my little cousin won't be able to see her next birthday, that her life and all she could do was taken from her before she could even begin to explore.

I'll see you again one day Demi baby. Until then look down on your mama and daddy and your sister and brothers, they're gonna need you to make it through this. Say hello to the family for me. Your cuz loves and misses you but I'll be okay.

R.I.P. Demi

September 13,2008-October 6, 2009

Song of the Day

I have 3 top male R&B singers and Usher has always been #1 on that list **followed closely by Maxwell and Tyrese**. I have all his cd's and that's saying alot because I am the downloading queen lol. From his debut cd in 94 to Confessions in 04, he has always kept me wanting more....and then there came Here I Stand *sigh*. Don't get me wrong, it had a few good songs but overall...I wasn't feeling it.

But now...the Usher I loved is BACK!! Divorce is never a pleasant thing and I guess his and Tameka's is no different. His new single is called 'Papers' and seems like he's airing out the laundry to me lol.