Thankful For Another Year

(a few cousins and I at Thanksgiving dinner)

First off I wanna say that I hope everyone had a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully you spent it with those who mean the most to you and your life because I did. Maybe it was seeing my best friend lose her mother which was really the only close family that she had earlier this year but...this year I felt a brand new appreciation and love of my family that I've never felt before. Not a lot of people are blessed to not only have family live close to them but to actually have a close relationships with their ENTIRE family...I am though.

Yes we fuss and fight (what family doesn't?) but at the end of the day: it's ALWAYS going to be us against the world. The good and the bad times, graduation and bday parties, weddings and funerals, holidays or any get together our bond is one of the strongest that I've ever seen in any family I've been around.

It's true when people say that you can't chose who you're related to and guess what? I wouldn't want to because God blessed me with the perfect family.

Shout Out to Chris Brown

I ♥ C.B. but damnit!! I just fell in deeper in love with him just because of this!!

We all know that C.B. is a HUGE Michael Jackson fan so recently at one of his concerts, he took the time out to pay tribute to The King of Pop in his own way and KILLED IT!

Chris Brown Paying Tribute To MJ

Party! Party! Party!

T^^^^^^^^^
See that picture?
Yeah that was me last weekend and if I know me and my crazy ass girls...that'll be me again this weekend and next lol.

Last weekend we started celebrating my girl TeeTee's 20th birthday and since her birthday was yesterday, we're gonna finish that this weekend.

I love my city during this time because....
Bayou Classic is next week!!!

That means:
1) step show

2)  battle of the bands

3) football game

and the best part is of course the drinking and partying!!

**Sidenote** I think I'm becoming an alcoholic lol

For the love of Ray J; wk-3

Goodbye to Lava and Just Right!!!!

Today the girls had to come up with a dance routine to perform for Ray and his friends.

Is it any surprise to anyone that one of the girls "smashed the homie?"

*sigh* and the culprit is....Luscious.

Lava proved to us all that she is indeed crazy as hell and needs psychiatric help...or just a straight jacket.

Ray and Just Right weren't compatible so he sent her packing.

All I can say is that I'm happy he kept Lucious because she seems cool and honestly, someone who made a sex tape w/ Kim K. and dated Whitney Houston while she was on drugs...can't really get upset about what someone else has done in their past.

Ohh *sighs* What a tangled web

High school relationships can make or break a friendship...

sometimes in the weirdest, most unexpected ways.
That was the case of myself and 3 other friends during that transition from high school to college.

Shana* and Bryan* had only been dating a few months but their relationship had gotten serious in the short time that they were together. I mean not a day passed that we all weren't at his house so the two of them could get their 'QT'. At first, everything was fine and then reality showed it's ugly head: it was time for Shana* to go off to college in another state.

I know right now, some of you are thinking that it's another case of a long distance relationship failed right? Well...if this would've been a quiz you guys would've gotten a 50%(F) on it. Prior to her leaving, she asked me and our other friend Krystal* to check on Bryan and hang with him, ya know make sure he wasn't trying to play with her while she was gone. Us, being close and good friends, we agreed to do as she asked.

Soon, I began to realize that as things got even more tense between Shana and Bryan, he and Krystal were getting closer and closer.....way to close to say he was dating her best friend. At first, I just ignored it and figured that I had to be seeing things. Well...I was sadly mistaken because the next thing I knew: Shana and Bryan had broken up, Bryan and Krystal had gotten together and took it a step further...she gave her virginity to him.

My mama always told me that once somebody turns 18, they are more than capable of understanding every single choice that they make and I believe that so even though I didn't agree with what they were doing, I chose to keep my peace and not say anything....*sigh* that only worked so long for me though and finally I couldn't hide it anymore and I told Shana what had happened between the two.

Of course, you can imagine the escapade that ensued after that little detail came to light.  Bryan and Krystal broke up, fell out with each other, Krystal and Shana no longer spoke and even Shana and I fell out for a short period of time. A few months later, Shana and I talked and started to repair our friendship....but she wouldn't reach out to Bryan and Krystal because of the hurt they had caused her.

After Shana and I having talk after talk after talk about the subject: she was able to become civil if not friendly with the both of them. It took time but now all of those old relationships have been mended, with the exception of Krystal and Bryan.

Now Bryan is a married man going through a divorce....trying to step out of his marriage with Shana and he seems to have no shame about it. He constantly calls and texts her. Asking when she comes back home can they spend time together, if she's happy in her current relationship and telling her that he wouldn't mind having sex with her. Basically, just being disrespectful to his wife, Shana and her boyfriend.

Shana and I had a talk earlier today and came to the conclusion that Bryan has never matured from the boy that he was in high school and that he still believes every relationship is as easy and care-free as it was back then and that's not the case.

It's sad but I really hope that one morning he wakes up and realizes that chasing after Shana, who has steadily said she won't get back with him, is going to cause him to lose not only his wife but his son as well....

NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED!!!!!!

Song of the Day

So I had to do this one for my city and my boy Lil Wayne.

The mixtape King of the South has done it again with his newest release No Ceilings.

Don't get me wrong, every song on the cd is hot but in my opinion he and Nicki went IN on their remix to Beyonce's 'Sweet Dreams'.

New Orleans stand up!!!

Enjoy!!

Music Playlist at MixPod.com

Fashionista on a budget

Okay it's been a while since I've done one of these but with winter getting closer and closer. I had  to give my fashionista's their fashion with a budget.

Sweater dresses are the thing right now!

Chic, versatile and comfortable.

This little dress is only @27.99 on my fav site amiclubwear.com
 Feel free to check out their entire selection of sweater dresses here.

 

Ex-Boyfriend's 101-Rule 1

Once I end a relationship, unless we've ended on a good note and have agreed to stay friends then our ties to each other are cut.

I have no vested interest in the things going on in your life, the problems you have or any of those things. If that's f****ed up then oh well.

IT IS WHAT IT IS!

Now recently I got some information about an ex of mine, who I'll call Marine, that in my opinion is very serious to me because if it's true it could have an effect on me and my life and THAT is not something I am willing to play with.

So I proceed to text Marine and tell him to call me as soon as he gets a chance because we need to talk about something very serious. Well, he finally decides to call me around 2 the next morning to see what it was I wanted to talk about. I pass along the information that was given to me and wait for him to either confirm or deny...well I was shocked when he did neither.

He startes to get very angry at the fact that I even had the nerve to ask him that question. Then demands that I give him the name of the person who passed along the news to me and when I refused, became even angrier over the phone. At that point, I was in no mood to try and have that conversation with him so I hung up the  phone. Upset because not only did he ruin my night out with my friends but he ignored the topic at hand and didn't answer the question.

At 8 something this morning, he called me again and woke me out of my sleep. **I am NOT a morning person and everyone that knows me knows that fact.** He starts off the conversation by saying that I WILL tell him who me the info and when I said no again he said and I quote exactly "look I already got enough s**t to deal with. I just got back from Afghanistan and feel guilty as hell cause my best friend is dead and he wouldn't be if it wasn't for me. I can't close my eyes at night without seeing guns and I wanna kill myself." Excuse me but if I recall correctly you called to discuss an issue involving both you and I. What you just told me is YOUR issue and the Marine Corps has psychiatrists that soldiers are supposed to see once they come back home. I repeat again: once we break up, I have no desire or wish to hear about YOUR issues unless they directly or indirectly involve me.

Back to the story though!

After he said all of that I asked him what was his purpose in saying all of that to me and he says it was because he wanted me to realize what all he is dealing with. After a few moments of silence that I had to take to get myself together, I ask him if he's going to answer my question. Well of course now he's vehomently denying what I was told but is still demanding that I tell him who passed it along.

I refused and hung up the phone.

Now I know some of you may be wondering what that has to do with this post.

Ex-boyfriend 101-Rule 1:

"Don't call your ex with personal issues unless you two are still good friends."

Happy Anniversary Sesame Street!

We all grew up watching Big Bird, Elmo, Grouch and all the others as they had their adventures on Sesame Street. We all learned things from them and had plenty of laughs along the way. Well...everyone's favorite show is now 40 years old and here are a few of my fav. clips from over the years. Enjoy!!

There are so many more but these are the ones that just stick in my mind! I love those Sesame Street characters! XOXOXO

Elmo sings the ABC's!

The Count

Elmo's Number 5 rap

Chris Brown on Sesame Street

Alone...among a crowd

Has anyone ever been in a crowded room and felt that if they just sat down and started to cry that no one would even bat an eye? Yeah well, I feel that way a lot...well more than I think I should.

I am one of the most sociable people in the world, at least I think I am but at the end of the day, I feel as if I'm all by myself in this world. Sometimes it feels as though, no matter what I do no one is capable of seeing the real me and not the facade that's always being presented.

I will be the 1st to admit that I can put a very good front around others. I've always been a chamillion and a good one at that. It's a habit that I've perfected over the years to protect myself from being hurt by friends, boyfriends and everyone else that I've come into contact with and now...the shield won't fade away.

In my group I'm the Dolly Lama (c) aka the person that's the problem solver, the peace keeper, the one that's called when someone hits a low and needs a shoulder...none of that lets me feel any closer to that than what I allow myself to feel. Now I've always been a natural loner so maybe that plays a part? *shrugs* maybe but then again maybe not.

All I do know is that one, just once, I'd love to be in a crowd and feel as if people saw me for me and not the facade. I'd love to be in a crowd and even though I may be alone, I wouldn't feel lonely.

For the Love of Ray J;wk. 2

This was another week of trumfoolery(c) in the world of reality dating lol. The ladies challenge this week was to come up with a script for themselves and Ray to act out.

I must admit there were some good one BUT there were some horribly bad ones (ie Extra! lol.) At the end the three winners he chose were: Lava, Jaguar and Luscious. During their date, I realized that Luscious is Nasty, just like Destiny's Child described in their song. I'm sorry but on a first date, you shouldn't have your tongue down someone;s throat *shrugs* sorry but that's just me ya know?

At elimination, after sending Gifts home, it came down to Trouble and Extra. Sadly, he didn't do the smart thing and send both of they nut asses home....at the end he chose Extra and Trouble was sent home.

Oh Joy...Hurricane Ida

Just when I thought we were going to have a tropical storm/hurricane free season this year, one comes along and says "Ha!". Hurricane Ida isn't directly headed towards New Orleans but the very fact that she's in the Gulf is enough to make us all hold our breaths.

I love my city but from June 1st to November 30th...I HATE LIVING HERE! Oh my goodness, it's always a constant issue with living here by the mouth of the Gulf and in a city that's already below sea-level.

Evacuations=headaches for students in New Orleans. We have to cancel classes and God forbid if the hurricane becomes serious, ie Katrina. They close schools and tell us to check online for our assignments. Once Katrina hit and 80% of the city was underneath water, parents had to find temporary schools for their kids, college students had to transfer to another university or take the risk of missing out on a semester. Beginning to see why I hate these months?

I'm going to be hoping that this time...we won't have to leave and that we can deal with this one at home, as we've done plenty of other times.

......................

*sigh*

*smdh*

Tragedy at Fort Hood

At this time I want to send my prayers and well-wishes to all of the soldiers at Fort Hood that lost their lives or were wounded today.

Before people begin to throw stones, everyone has to realize that PDST is a very true thing that soldiers deal with after leaving Iraq/Afghanistan. I truly don't know what to say about this subject right now except that I hope the military does what ever it can to ensure the soldiers can cope with this situation.

As a military brat (mother IS a member of the few, the proud... the Marines!!), I feel this tragedy as a personal blow...

RIP Soldiers

hopefully you're deaths won't be in vein and thank you for your service to this country.

The Perfect Man

The perfect man is a myth

A sham

Lies

Concoted by....well guys

There is no general ideal man

I think you will agree this much is true

But there is one good man out there

molded only for you.

He will sex you till your spine gets chills

and orgasms wrack your body and steal your will

to maintain those walls you've erected to deal

with all the lies and bullshit you've had to endure

This man will cure

this incurable bitterness that has drowned your soul

by boys that have pillaged your treasures untold

but before and after the physical, he will satiate your mental

and after that's done, he will repeat the essentials

give you a shot of heaven, chased with a bit of help

crawl inside your mind and body while you delve

into a secret place you thought was over and done

because at that exact moment, two became one

not just bodies but every fiber of your being

felt what he felt and saw what he was seeing

he will not hesitate to be everything you need

Be it

grease your scalp

run your bath

or rub your feet.

He'll manifest your thoughts before you've had time to think

solve your problems before you can even speak

know your body inside and out without having to seek

when a good man meets a good woman

they were destined to meet.

The man mentioned will come when it's time

but first you must position yourself in lone

with physical, mental and spiritual prosperity.

See

you have to be complete

in the

very ways you want this man to be

pride astride

open wide

tears dried

no ties

you have to be happy independently

don't include another person in your misery

no frantic searches because

a wedding ring is missing

and your clock has been tickin'

or it's been 3 months since you had some good dick or

licking for that matter

..............................................................................

damn i lost my train of verse

so let me slow down in reverse

give you the abridged version

wither terse-

ness

hit

just

than

more

to do

meant

was

that

a man

find

to

hunting

before

time

yourself

give

There is a man who was specifically designed

with only you in mind

he knows what to do....

He's just waiting on you.

My Kings and Queens....

That old age question of "where are all the good men?" is so tiresome to me because I have a newsflash for all my women reading this: there ARE good men out there. You just may not be looking for them in the right place. A few years ago I would've said that the #1 place you shouldn't be looking for love in was the club but...now I can't say that you shouldn't be looking for love in the club b/c my sister met her current boyfriend in the club and they've been dating for the past 1 1/2 years and love each other to such a depth that I can only pray that I feel that type of love one day.

I've had conversations over and over again with some male friends and they're saying the same thing that we are: that they're looking but can't find a good woman. I firmly believe that before we all go looking for mr or mrs. right, that we need to have ourselves in order. How can we truly expect to be able to give our all to a relationship when we arent' even capable of giving our all to ourselves?

Black Women need to realize that we are queens and therefore deserve to be treated as such but we fail to realize that our beautiful, intelligent, strong Black Men deserve to be treated like the kings that they all are. I need for my black men to start treating their queens with more respect. Don't put your hands on a queen in anger, don't belittle her. Treat her as the jewel that God gave you to be your other 1/2, the better part of yourself.

For the Love of Ray-J 2; wk 1

I knew VH1 was bringing this trumfoolery©B.Scott back but I'll be damned if this season isn't picking up right where the last one left off at. Ray-J, Lil B' and 19 more girls all trying to get their 15 minutes of fame.

The girls this season are:
Adorable (23)

Caliente (31)

Exotica (24)
Extra (21)

Flossy (21)

Gifts (22)

Heartbreaker (22)

Jaguar (23)

Just Right (32)

Lava (24)

Luscious (23)

Mz. Berry (32)

Paradeez (22)

Platinum (22)

Popper (25)

Trouble (22)

Diego (21)

Fettucini (22)

Tipsy (22)

Ray-J you have done it again (insert sarcasm here). I didn't think that after last season, it could get any worse but of course I've been managed to been proven wrong. I'm sorry but can someone explain to me why any woman in her right mind would go on a reality show to date a man who's only claim to fame is a)being Brandy's brother b)having made a sex tape with K. Kardashian and c) having dated Whitney Houston? Really now? Really? We all know they all only go on there so that whenever they get eliminated they can become "reality stars".

*Sigh* and *smdh* I guess for the sake of entertainment, I'll watch this season and see what the hell happens.

Resignation in Louisiana **Update**

We all recall hearing about the justice of the peace who refused to marry an interracial couple last month. If not --> here's the link <--.


Well...nola.com posted today that he has resigned his post. He submitted a one-page letter of resignation to the Louisiana Secretary of State.


All I can say to this is Thank God!!! I've been wondering ever since I heard about this nonsense what was going to happen to this fool and this is exactly what I was hoping for. When you are a civil servant that means you serve everyone and their race, sex, age does not matter.

Rampant Racism in New Orleans pt. 2

Here we go:

My wonderful, always colorful opinion on Ed Blakely's comments.

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1. 
   
   
   While it is true that a FEW people in this city expected for all of the work to be done for them, the majority of the city acknowledge the fact that if we want our city bigger & better than it was before Katrina, most of the labor would have to come from natives. Some expected a hand-out and when they didn't receive it they gave up but that does NOT include the city as a whole. Neighborhoods as a whole are working tirelessly to restore the areas they live in.
   
   
   
2. 
   
   
   Buffons....that is a very harsh word. I concede that there ARE some ignorant people that live in this city. People who have no desire to further their education, living conditions and life in general but once again I say: that doesn't mean EVERYONE here is like that and for him to make that generalized statement makes him seem to be a damn "buffon".
   
   
   
3. 
   
   
   Racism is very much at work in New Orleans and even though it disgusts me to say that, it is very much so the truth. Everyday cases of whites vs. blacks, whites vs. lations, asians vs. blacks and etc etc are evident. We all need to work together to end the intolerance that's seperating us so I have a question: what's more important: stating that everyone is a racist or doing something to end the shit?....exactly!
   
   
   
4. 
   
   
   Race riot.....*smdh* I hate to tell you this Ed buddy old pal but...you're late with that announcement. Race riots have been going on down here for years and years. Blacks killing blacks, blacks killing whites, whites killing blacks, whites killing whites and every other race that there is. Stop trying to predict the future and worry about fixing the here and now.
   
   
   
5. 
   
   
   I can't really comment on this one because I've never had the pleasure (insert sarcasm)  of living in either Cleveland or California or any place that he's worked. I can say that compared to Mississippi, which I'm very much familiar with, yes the bureaucracy in New Orleans isn't as sophisticated as it could be. Instead of blasting it, why not HELP?
   
   
   
6. 
   
   
   The education system before Hurricane Katrina was filled with corruption and people who, for the majority, did not care about the students and if they learned or not. So yes, there have been numerous cases of people moving from grade to grade without getting the help that they need. Now that they are taking those steps to better themselves: it's to be taken as a negative? They're doing more than others and that's TRYING.
   
   
   
7. 
   
   
   I am so tired of hearing that New Orleans won't around in another 100 years! "Too far below sea-level", "Not enough storm surge protection" and such and such. To all of those people I only have a few words to say: SHUT THE HELL UP!! Honestly, I've always said this and it may sound mean but f**k it this is my blog: if you can bring your a** down here for Mardi Gras, to party on Canal and Bourbon,Voodoo Fest, Essence, Jazz Fest and all of the other things that go on in this city then you have a vested interest in New Orleans as much as the residents do. If you have such a love for this city why not help to ensure that in another 100 years, New Orleans will still be here for you to come and party in?
   
   **Disclaimer** All statements and opinions stated in this post above is the writer's personal feelings. If you a) don't agree with anything I said or b) feel as if I'm being prejudiced then you can feel free to leave.
   
   
   

Rampant Racism in New Orleans pt. 1

*raises hands*
Teacher: yes Jacquite?
Me: I was wondering: what year is it?
Teacher: Excuse me?
Me: What year is it?
Teacher: 2009, why?
Me: I ask because after Ed Blakely's interview I feel as if we're back in the 1900's with the way he described our situation here in New Orleans.

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Allow me to explain that whole scenario that I just played out to you all.

Ed Blakely, who was in charge of heading the recovery here in New Orleans recently did an interview with CalTV, the University of California-Berkeley's online television show and during that time he basically threw New Orleans and every citizen that lives here under the bus.

I'll post the links here and here for you guys if you want to watch it but I'll just give a quick run-down.

He states that:

1. 
   
   
   We never planned on doing anything w/ the rebuilding our selves. That we expected outsiders to come in and do all the work themselves.
   
   
2. 
   
   
   Most people in this city are "buffons".
   
   
3. 
   
   
   That everyone is a racist
   
   
4. 
   
   
   That the tensions between the races down here is so bad that unless the next mayor is extremely clever, a race riot WILL happen.
   
   
5. 
   
   
   The bureaucracy in New Orleans is nowhere near as sophisticated as it is in Oakland and other cities in which he's worked.
   
   
6. 
   
   
   30% of city employees are taking basic literacy courses. and last but not least and my favorite out of this list (insert sarcasm)
   
   
7. 
   
   
   New Orleans isn't likely to be around for another 100 years. He claims the Mississippi River and another storm will conspire to "wipe New Orleans off the map."
   
   

**Giving my thoughts and all that good stuff in next post so stay tuned**

If I were a boy....

Don't know why I picked this for a title except I happen to be listening to it at the current moment so ehh *shrugs* I'll just run with it. Okay some of you may remember this post I did about the dude that I was feeling and dealing with a while back....yeah that's the end of that as far as I'm concerned. It's best for us to just stay friends before I can't even be that with him.


I'ma steal from my brother for a quick sec and say that we're all grown here so I'm bout to keep it 100: the two of us have always known, unstated, that the other had people we were dealing with besides each other and that was fine with me because I wasn't and still aren't looking for a serious relationship or an exclusive "friends with benefits" arrangement. This is my whole problem with it though: the respect line was crossed, time and time again. 


Maybe this is just me and my weird twisted way of thinking but if I'm fucking with a dude and I KNOW he has other females on the side that's all fine but if it gets to the point that he's basically PARADING these other females in front me and what they do together, THEN I'm gonna have a problem with it. Out of respect for him, I kept my other dudes away from him, which wasn't always easy to do because a) N.O. is a small city and b) college kids tend to party together but I did it.




Basically what I'm saying is that fellas if you're gonna be dealing with one girl and others at the same time...just keep the respect and not flaunt it in faces b/c then with the right or guess in some cases wrong females...ish can get very ugly.


Sidenote: Facebook causes more damn trouble than it's worth I swear!! Death to facebook!!!

Hoping For the best

This is just gonna be a quick post but it's serious...well at least to me it is.

I'm in the process of trying to transfer to another college, Ull or University of Louisiana at Lafayette, and I'm waiting to hear back from them.

Lol now I'm remembering why I hated applying to colleges my senior year of high school *smh*

I'm just asking that all of you hope for the best because I REALLY want to be at this school.